Mentoring, gaining trust through the credibility of example

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One of the great things about mentoring is that true recognition as a mentor can only be given to you by the person who considers you as such. That person has given you their credibility because you have placed your trust in them.

Although I have had more than 60 mentoring processes over these 13 years, I cannot say that I have been the mentor of the people who have gone through the mentoring programs or processes in which I have participated. The most I could say is that I have used mentoring in my way of working with them, that mentoring is my way of relating to people in whom I discover a potential or a desire to improve.

For me , mentoring is a way of being, of existing and of doing.

There is no scientific discipline that makes us mentors, nor is there even a training WhatsApp Number List that makes us mentors. In the mentor training programs that I direct and teach, we do not actually train mentors, we prepare people who want to play this role so that they do it as well as possible, so that they understand what that role consists of, so that they know the tools that can facilitate their performance. But before training, there is the attitude necessary to be a good mentor, and to know how to earn the credibility of the mentee.

And what are these people like in whom we give our credibility ? Well, they are people like those described by Juan Mateo and Juan Manuel Lillo in their book “Leading in difficult times”: people who give wings, who donate synergies, who emanate commitment, who inoculate reciprocal responsibility, who give confidence, who spread credibility, who have an enormous capacity to draw, who radiate drive, who spread availability, and who pour out a deep-rooted sense of duty.



Some of you may be wondering, where are there people with these qualities? How can I risk trusting my professional development to someone who may not meet all these expectations? It is not about looking for perfect beings, we simply have to observe the behavior of those around us, and focus on those people who offer us credibility, who transmit confidence, from whom we can learn and with whom we can grow. And you know this the moment you are near one of them, they transmit a special vibration, they resonate.

How many people can we say are always up to the task, that we know we can count on them, that they will not let us down? These are the kind of people who give us security, in whom we believe and trust. They are the kind of people who, from the moment we meet them, maintain a certain line of behavior  in the same situations, and that is why we know what we can expect from them.